Be Curious, Not Desperate
The job search can make you feel desperate! Especially when it seems like every opportunity is slipping away from you. However, if you approach the job search with a curiosity mindset rather than a desperation mindset, it can greatly improve your chances of success.
But why is it important to avoid a desperation mindset during the job search?
Well, when you seem desperate for a job, it can send a negative message to potential employers. Employers want to hire confident, self-assured employees who are passionate about their work, not those who seem desperate and uncertain.
The tone we set and the feelings we signal can have a huge impact on how we’re perceived. Desperation can make you appear less competent and decrease your chances of getting hired.
Instead of focusing on what YOU need to get from them (aka the job), focus on what you can bring to THEM. Shifting this focus from “me” to “you” can help shift our attention from desperation to curiosity and make all the difference in your search.
Here's how to approach the job search with a curiosity mindset:
Be Open-Minded:
When you approach the job search with a curiosity mindset, you are open to exploring new opportunities and industries that you might not have considered before. This broadens your horizons and increases your chances of finding a job that truly excites you.
Ask Questions:
When you are curious, you ask questions. This can help you to better understand the company and its culture, which can ultimately lead to a better fit for you. During the interview process, ask questions about the company's mission, values, and work environment to get a better understanding of what it would be like to work there.
Take Notes:
Curiosity often leads to learning, and the job search is no exception. Take notes during your job search process to keep track of what you have learned about each company and each opportunity. This will help you to make informed decisions about which job to pursue.
Network:
Curiosity also leads to connections. Reach out to your network to learn about any job opportunities or to get advice on your job search. Attend networking events or join professional organizations to meet new people and expand your network.
Be Positive:
Finally, approach the job search with a positive attitude. Instead of feeling desperate and stressed, focus on the opportunities that lie ahead. Believe in yourself and your abilities, and approach each job opportunity with enthusiasm.
Approaching the job search with a curiosity mindset rather than a desperation mindset can help you explore new opportunities, ask the right questions, take helpful notes, network effectively, and maintain a positive attitude. By doing so, you can increase your chances of finding a job that truly excites you, while avoiding the negative consequences of seeming desperate during the job search process.
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#113 - HOW TO MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS AT WORK, with Brooke Wachtler, Psy.D
Career Therapy Podcast e.113 - HOW TO MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS AT WORK, with Brooke Wachtler, Psy.D
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On this week's Career Therapy Podcast (e.113), we welcome Dr. Brooke Wachtler to the conversation. Brooke is a licensed psychologist and the founder of BEW Consulting & Training and the newsletter Beyond the Buzzword. She offers companies interactive workshops that teach proven strategies for tackling workplace challenges. She is passionate about helping people change their thought processes, actions, and behaviors to help improve well-being at work.
In this episode, we discuss how to deal with your difficult boss or coworker, ways to reframe your mindsets to reduce stress, and how to realistically integrate your work and personal lives in a way that leads to long term career success.
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During this Episode, We Discuss:
1:51 Background on Brooke Wachtler, PsyD
3:19 integration of work and life
5:25 Getting control over your situation
7:32 Finding some kind of balance (remote work)
12:33 How much does mindset play a role?
18:29 Controlling reactions vs. denial
21:47 Imposter syndrome
26:04 The “Professional veneer”
34:45 Talking to your boss
39:27 Holding both yourself, and others, accountable
41:43 Common pitfalls clients fall in to
44:01 Acceptance
52:45 Good ways to respond to overwhelm
57:03 How to keep your cool
Resources, links, and/or books mentioned in this episode:
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41% of Employees Experience Anxiety
41% of Employees Experience Anxiety: Negative Impacts and Solutions
Anxiety is a common mental health condition that affects millions of people globally. Unfortunately, it is not just limited to individuals outside the workplace but has also become prevalent among employees. According to a recent survey, 41% of employees experience anxiety at work, which can have significant negative impacts on their well-being and productivity.
Impacts of anxiety in the workplace:
Decreased productivity: Anxiety can lead to distractions and decreased focus, making it difficult for employees to perform their tasks effectively.
Absence from work: Chronic anxiety can result in frequent absences from work, which can affect both the employee's finances and the company's operations.
Decreased job satisfaction: Anxiety can lead to burnout and decreased job satisfaction, which can result in high turnover rates and increased recruitment costs.
Physical health issues: Chronic stress and anxiety can lead to physical health issues such as headaches, digestive problems, and sleep disorders.
Solutions to reduce anxiety in the workplace:
Encourage self-care: Encourage employees to prioritize their well-being by providing them with resources for self-care, such as stress management techniques and mindfulness exercises.
Foster a supportive work environment: Create a supportive work environment that promotes open communication and fosters positive relationships among employees.
Implement flexible work arrangements: Offer flexible work arrangements such as telecommuting or flexible hours to help employees manage their stress levels.
Promote physical activity: Encourage employees to be physically active by providing opportunities for physical activity, such as on-site gym facilities or organized sports teams.
Provide access to mental health resources: Offer access to mental health resources, such as counseling services or employee assistance programs, to help employees manage their anxiety.
Anxiety is a growing concern among employees, and it is essential for companies to take steps to reduce its negative impacts. By promoting self-care, fostering a supportive work environment, and providing access to mental health resources, companies can create a healthy and productive workplace for their employees.
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The True Cost of a Toxic Boss
The True Cost of a Toxic Boss
A toxic boss can bring stress, negativity, and conflict to the workplace. While it's easy to quantify the direct costs of toxic leadership, such as lower morale and increased turnover, the indirect costs are often overlooked.
Here are just a few of the many ways a toxic boss can hurt a company's bottom line.
Decreased Productivity:
Employees who work for a toxic boss are often less productive due to constant stress and anxiety. They may become disengaged, making it difficult for them to focus on their work and meet deadlines.
Increased Turnover:
The most obvious direct cost of a toxic boss is increased turnover. Employees who work for toxic leaders are more likely to quit, which can result in significant costs associated with recruitment, training, and lost productivity.
Decreased Morale:
When employees are constantly belittled, criticized, or made to feel worthless, morale can take a big hit. Low morale can affect teamwork, creativity, and the overall atmosphere of the workplace.
Legal Issues:
A toxic boss can also create legal issues for a company. For example, if an employee is subjected to harassment or discrimination, the company may be held responsible and face costly lawsuits.
Reputation Damage:
A toxic boss can also damage a company's reputation, which can impact its ability to attract top talent and retain customers. A toxic leader can create a toxic culture that spreads throughout the organization, affecting everyone from employees to customers.
Loss of Key Talent:
When a toxic boss drives away key talent, the company loses not only the skills and experience of that employee, but also the potential for future contributions. The longer a toxic boss remains in place, the more damage they can do to a company's ability to succeed in the long term.
The true cost of a toxic boss goes far beyond what can be seen on the surface. It can impact a company's productivity, morale, reputation, and bottom line.
Leaders must be held accountable for their behavior, and companies must take steps to protect their employees from toxic leadership. By creating a positive, supportive work environment, companies can foster a culture of success and prosperity for all.
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The Rise of “Workcations”
The Rise of "Workcations": Why it's Bad for Your Mental Health at Work
The pandemic has brought about a new trend called "workcations", where people take their work with them while they are on vacation.
The idea is to be able to relax and enjoy a vacation while still getting work done. However, research shows that this trend may be doing more harm than good for our mental health at work.
First, workcations blur the lines between work and leisure time. Taking work with you on vacation can cause stress and anxiety, as you may feel pressured to get work done while also trying to enjoy your time off.
This can lead to burnout and increased stress levels, which can have negative effects on your mental health.
Second, workcations can interfere with the ability to truly disconnect from work. When you take your work with you on vacation, you may find yourself constantly checking your email or responding to work-related messages. This can make it difficult to switch off and relax, which can lead to feelings of stress and anxiety.
Third, workcations can lead to feelings of guilt and guilt-trips. People who take workcations may feel guilty for not being able to fully enjoy their vacation or for not being able to fully concentrate on work. This can cause further stress and anxiety, and can lead to a vicious cycle of feeling guilty for not doing either task to the best of your ability.
Workcations may seem like a good idea in theory, but in reality, they can have negative effects on our mental health. It is important to set clear boundaries between work and leisure time, and to give ourselves the space to truly disconnect and relax. Taking a break from work, even if it's just a short one, can help refresh our minds and reduce stress levels, leading to better overall mental health.
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Emotional Detachment During Mass Layoffs
Decathexis, or "decathecting," is a term used to describe the process of letting go of emotional attachments or attachments to things. It's a concept that can be applied to all areas of life, including the workplace.
In the context of the workplace, decathexis can be a valuable tool for preparing for potential layoffs. The uncertainty and stress of potential layoffs can be overwhelming for employees, and it can be difficult to focus on anything else. Decathexis can help employees detach from their attachment to their job and their attachment to the company.
One way to practice decathexis in the workplace is to focus on the present moment. Instead of worrying about the future or dwelling on the past, focus on what you can control in the present. This can help reduce stress and anxiety and allow you to be more productive.
Another way to practice decathexis in the workplace is to focus on your skills and abilities. Instead of focusing on your job or the company, focus on what you can bring to the table. This can help you feel more in control and more confident in your abilities, even in the face of potential layoffs.
Finally, consider developing a plan B. It's always good to have a backup plan. You can start looking for other job opportunities while still working, or start thinking about what you want to do next. This way, if layoffs do happen, you're not caught off guard, and you're better prepared to move on.
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TOXIC, or Just "Not Great"?
A toxic workplace is one where the environment is harmful to the physical, mental, and emotional well-being of the employees.
This can manifest in a variety of ways, including bullying, harassment, discrimination, and an overall lack of respect and support.
On the other hand, a "not great" workplace is one that may not be perfect, but it is not actively causing harm to its employees. This could include things like poor communication, lack of growth opportunities, or a lack of recognition and appreciation for hard work.
While a "not great" workplace may not be ideal, it is important to recognize that it is not the same as a toxic one.
In a "not great" workplace, employees may not be thriving, but they are not being actively harmed. This means that with some changes and improvements, the workplace can become a better place for everyone.
However, in a toxic workplace, the harm being done to employees is often systemic and deeply ingrained in the culture. This means that it may take a significant effort to change the workplace and create a healthier environment.
It is important for employees to be able to identify and speak out against a toxic workplace. This can include reporting incidents of harassment and discrimination, as well as advocating for changes to the company culture.
On the other hand, a "not great" workplace can be improved by implementing better communication channels, creating growth opportunities, and recognizing and appreciating employees' hard work.
If you are in a toxic workplace, it's important to speak out and report incidents of harassment and discrimination. If you're in a "not great" workplace, communicate with management and advocate for changes to make it a better place for everyone.
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#112 - SUNDAY SCARIES AND SELF CARE, with Dr. Julia Baron
Career Therapy Podcast e.112 - SUNDAY SCARIES AND SELF CARE, with Dr. Julia Baron
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On this week's Career Therapy Podcast (e.112), we welcome Dr. Julia Baron, a licensed psychologist based in San Francisco, with experience in both clinical work and consulting.
Julia specializes in women’s health and wellness, substance use treatment, and pediatric and adolescent neuropsychological assessment. She currently works on the clinical team at Caraway - a digital healthcare company providing integrated mental, physical, and reproductive health for college women, and her private practice includes consulting and coaching for both individuals and teams, psychotherapy, and assessment.
In this episode, we discuss how to cope with Sunday Scares, align your values, skills, and interests, and take a more holistic approach to your life and your career.
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During this Episode, We Discuss:
2:06 Background of Dr. Julia Baron
4:42 Intersection of values and interests
8:30 What happens when our values are not being met
10:59 How to avoid sunday scaries
13:55 Why is it so hard to do basic things?
18:30 Feeling of overwhelm
19:35 What is the biggest thing online?
23:59 Do we use social media to numb?
26:40 What is NORMAL?
29:40 Are you the only one feeling this way?
31:35 Emotional reasoning and catastrophizing
36:15 What do you do when you first open the pandora’s box of emotion?
37:15 Mindfulness and journaling
41:02 Responses for each individual
44:37 SMART goals
47:52 How to cultivate self-compassion
50:33 The pain of dismantling your identity
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Is Quiet Quitting Healthy?
Quiet quitting, also known as stealth quitting or secret quitting, is when an individual disengages from a situation or activity without making a formal announcement or explanation. This can happen in a variety of contexts, such as quitting a job, ending a friendship, or leaving a group or organization.
On the positive side, quiet quitting can be beneficial for one's mental health in certain situations. For example, if an individual is in a toxic work environment or a draining friendship, quietly disengaging from that situation can be a form of self-care and a way to prioritize their own well-being. It can also provide a sense of agency and control for the individual, as they are making a choice to leave a situation that is not serving them well.
On the other side, quiet quitting can also have negative impacts on one's mental health. If the individual is not able to fully process and make peace with their decision to leave, they may experience feelings of guilt or regret. Additionally, if the individual is not able to openly communicate their decision and reasons for leaving, they may struggle with unresolved conflicts or misunderstandings. Finally, if the individual is not able to find a healthy way to cope and move on, they may find themselves struggling with feelings of loss and sadness.
At the end of the day, quiet quitting can have both positive and negative impacts on one's mental health. It is important for individuals to consider their reasons for leaving and to find healthy ways to cope with and move on from the situation. Additionally, it is important for individuals to communicate openly and honestly with those involved, in order to avoid unresolved conflicts and misunderstandings.
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Impact of Mass Layoffs on Mental Health
The Impact of Mass Layoffs on Mental Health
In today's rapidly changing job market, mass layoffs have become an unfortunate reality for many people. While the immediate impact of losing a job can be devastating, the long-term effects on mental health can be even more severe.
When a person loses their job, they often experience feelings of anxiety, depression, and hopelessness. These feelings can be exacerbated by the uncertainty of not knowing when or if they will be able to find another job. In addition, people who have lost their jobs may also experience financial stress, which can further contribute to mental health issues.
The loss of a job can also have a ripple effect on a person's relationships and overall sense of self-worth. People may feel a sense of shame or embarrassment about being laid off, and this can lead to isolation and feelings of inadequacy.
For those who are fortunate enough to find another job, the process of adjusting to a new work environment can be stressful and difficult. It can take time to build new relationships and to feel comfortable in a new role. In the meantime, people may feel a sense of loss and confusion about their previous job and the life they had before the layoff.
It's important to understand that the effects of mass layoffs on mental health can be long-lasting and severe. Those who have lost their jobs should be encouraged to seek support and resources, whether it be through counseling, job search assistance, or financial support. Additionally, employers should take steps to provide support and resources for employees who have been affected by layoffs, and to consider the mental health impacts of layoffs in their decision-making process.
Mass layoffs have a significant impact on mental health, it's important for employers to consider the impacts of their decision and for the affected individuals to seek the necessary support and resources to cope with the changes. With the right support and resources, people can begin to rebuild their lives and move forward in a positive direction.
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Meditate Your Way to a New Job
Meditation has been shown to have a variety of benefits for both physical and mental health, and it can also be a valuable tool in your job search. Here are a few ways that incorporating meditation into your daily routine can help you during your job search:
Reduce stress and anxiety:
Job searching can be an incredibly stressful and anxiety-inducing process. Meditation can help you manage these feelings by teaching you how to focus on the present moment and let go of worries about the future or regrets about the past.
Increase focus and concentration:
A key part of a successful job search is being able to focus and concentrate on the task at hand. Meditation can help improve your ability to focus and pay attention, which can make it easier to stay on top of your job search tasks and make a strong impression on potential employers.
Improve self-awareness:
Meditation can also help you gain a better understanding of yourself and your strengths and weaknesses. This can be incredibly valuable when you're trying to identify the types of jobs or industries that would be the best fit for you.
Enhance your interview skills:
Meditation can also help you prepare for interviews by teaching you how to remain calm and composed under pressure. This can help you feel more confident and in control during interviews, which can make you a more attractive candidate to potential employers.
Improve your networking skills:
Meditation can also help you improve your networking skills by teaching you how to be more present and engaged in social interactions. This can help you make more meaningful connections with other people, which can be incredibly valuable when you're trying to build your professional network.
Overall, meditation can be a powerful tool to help you navigate the often stressful and anxiety-inducing process of job searching. By reducing stress, increasing focus, improving self-awareness, enhancing interview skills, and improving networking skills, meditation can help increase your chances of finding the right job.
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Severance Package Negotiations
Severance packages can be an important consideration for employees who are facing the end of their employment. While the specifics of a severance package may vary depending on the employer and the circumstances of the termination, there are several key elements that employees can negotiate in order to make the most of their severance package. Here are 10 things that employees can negotiate in a severance package:
Severance Pay:
This is the amount of money an employee will receive after their employment ends. It can be based on factors such as the employee's length of service, position, and salary.
Benefits continuation:
This refers to the continuation of employee benefits such as health insurance, retirement plans, or stock options after the employee leaves the company. This can help employees to maintain their benefits while they look for a new job.
Non-disclosure or non-compete agreements:
These agreements can be included in a severance package to protect the company's confidential information or prevent the employee from working for a competitor for a certain period of time.
Outplacement services:
This refers to assistance provided to the employee to help them find a new job, such as resume writing and interview coaching. This can be a valuable resource for employees who are looking to transition to a new career.
Positive reference:
This refers to a letter of recommendation or verbal reference from the employer to help the employee find a new job. A positive reference can be an important asset for employees who are looking for new employment opportunities.
Release of claims:
This refers to an agreement by the employee to not take legal action against the company in exchange for the severance package. This can help to avoid a costly and time-consuming legal dispute.
Additional payment for unused vacation or PTO:
Employees can negotiate for additional compensation for their unused vacation days or PTO, which can help them to bridge the gap between their last day of employment and their first day of their new job.
Continuation of certain perks, like parking or gym membership:
Employees can negotiate for the continuation of certain perks or benefits that they may have had access to while employed, like parking or gym membership.
Extension of the notice period:
Employees can negotiate for an extended notice period, which can allow them more time to prepare for the end of their employment and find a new job.
An agreement to not contest unemployment benefits:
Employees can negotiate for an agreement with their employer not to contest unemployment benefits, which can help to ensure that they are able to receive unemployment benefits more quickly and with less hassle.
It's important to note that not all companies offer severance packages, and the terms of a severance package can vary depending on the employer and the circumstances of the termination. However, by knowing what to negotiate and being prepared to advocate for yourself, you can increase the chances of getting a fair and beneficial severance package.
Why Does Hiring Take So Long???
Hiring someone for a company can be a time-consuming and complex process, and there are a variety of reasons why it may take a long time for a company to bring a new employee on board.
One of the main reasons for this is the sheer volume of applicants that companies often receive for a single position. With the rise of online job boards and social media, it has become easier than ever for job seekers to apply to multiple positions at once. This means that companies are often inundated with hundreds, if not thousands, of resumes and cover letters to sift through. This process can take weeks or even months, as recruiters and hiring managers carefully review each application to determine which candidates are the best fit for the position.
Another reason that the hiring process can take a long time is the need for thorough background checks and reference checks. In today's job market, companies are taking extra precautions to ensure that they are hiring the right person for the job. This may include conducting background checks on all applicants, which can take several weeks to complete. Additionally, companies often require candidates to provide multiple references, and it can take time to contact and verify these references.
In addition, the hiring process can also be slowed down by internal factors such as budget and resource constraints, lack of internal coordination and communication, and a lack of clear job description. Also, if the company is going through a merger or acquisition, or if the company is experiencing financial difficulties, it may take longer for them to make a hiring decision.
Finally, the hiring process can also be slowed down by the need for multiple rounds of interviews, each of which may take several days or even weeks to schedule. Some companies may also require candidates to complete additional tests or assessments, such as skill tests or personality tests, which can add additional time to the hiring process.
Overall, while the hiring process can be frustrating for job seekers, it is important to remember that companies are trying to make the best decision for their business. The hiring process can take a long time, but companies are doing their due diligence to ensure that they are bringing the right person on board.
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Are You Over or Under-Prepared for the Interview?
Preparing for an interview can be a tricky process. On one hand, you want to be well-prepared so that you can make a great impression and land the job. On the other hand, you don't want to over-prepare and come across as robotic or rehearsed. In this blog post, we'll explore some tips for striking the right balance between over-preparing and under-preparing for an interview.
First, it's important to understand the difference between over-preparing and under-preparing.
Over-preparing refers to when you spend so much time researching, practicing, and rehearsing that you lose your authenticity and spontaneity during the interview.
Under-preparing, on the other hand, refers to when you don't spend enough time researching, practicing, and rehearsing, and as a result, you're not as prepared as you could be.
Here are some tips to help you strike the right balance between over-preparing and under-preparing:
Research the company and the role before the interview.
Understand the company's mission, values, and culture, as well as the responsibilities of the role you're applying for. This will help you tailor your answers to the interviewer's questions and show that you're a good fit for the company.
Practice your answers to common interview questions.
This will help you feel more confident and prepared during the interview. However, don't memorize your answers word-for-word, as this can make you sound robotic and rehearsed.
Be yourself.
Remember that the interviewer wants to get to know you as a person, not a rehearsed version of yourself. Don't try to be someone you're not or hide your true personality.
Be prepared to ask questions.
Come to the interview with a few questions to ask the interviewer. This will show that you're genuinely interested in the company and the role, and it will also give you the opportunity to learn more about the company and the role.
Be open to improvisation.
While it's important to practice and prepare, don't get too caught up in sticking to a script. Be open to improvisation and adapt to the interviewer's questions and conversation.
By following these tips, you'll be well-prepared for your interview without over-preparing. Remember that the goal is to strike a balance between being prepared and being authentic.
Good luck!
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Is it REALLY a Catastrophe?
Catastrophizing, or the tendency to exaggerate the negative consequences of a situation, can be a common issue during a job search.
It can lead to feelings of stress, anxiety, and hopelessness, making the job search process even more difficult. However, there are ways to stop catastrophizing and make the job search process more manageable.
Recognize the thoughts:
The first step in stopping catastrophizing is to recognize when you are doing it. Pay attention to the thoughts that are running through your mind and identify any that are exaggerating the negative outcomes of a situation.
Challenge the thoughts:
Once you have identified the thoughts, it is important to challenge them. Ask yourself if the negative outcomes are likely to happen or if there is evidence to support them. Often, the thoughts are based on assumptions or fears rather than facts.
Practice mindfulness:
Mindfulness can help reduce stress and anxiety associated with catastrophizing. Take a few minutes each day to focus on your breath and bring your attention to the present moment. This can help you to be more aware of your thoughts and to let go of the ones that are not helpful.
Break the cycle:
Catastrophizing can be a habit, so it is important to break the cycle. Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts, redirect your mind to something positive. This could be as simple as thinking about something you are looking forward to or something that makes you happy.
Seek support:
Finally, it is important to seek support during the job search process. Talking to a friend, family member, or counselor can help you to process your thoughts and feelings in a healthy way.
By recognizing, challenging, and breaking the cycle of catastrophizing thoughts, practicing mindfulness and seeking support, you can make the job search process less stressful and more manageable. Remember to be patient with yourself and that finding a job may take time, but with persistence and a positive attitude, you will find the right opportunity for you.
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A Lost Stranger...
A LinkedIn Note Titled: A LOST STRANGER
Hello Martin,
I graduated from a business administration marketing program before covid broke out. The only experience I've had prior is from call centers (customer service and/or sales). I am not exactly sure what area I'm interested in pursuing, and I haven't had any real work experience in my field to be able to know if i like something or not.
Kinda in the spot of having to settle for anything and even lower my expectations by a huge amount just to get steady income coming. I've even went to the options of just trying to get data entry or bookkeeping just to get something. Can feel pretty discouraging thinking everyone is looking for prior work experience in all fields you apply for. It can also feel discouraging thinking the education you received isn't enough for the real world or vastly outdated. Like you still need to know so much more before even being hired anywhere.
Many marketing positions it feels like they are looking for the perfect utility knife person who has done everything before. Like a professional in multiple fields and job positions. It does make me have impostor syndrome. I think my first goal was to find a field I’m passionate in and can enjoy doing, but that seems more like a future goal than a current goal now. Right now the goal is just to get some sort of business position that pays good and that i can do remotely, but I have some questions.
1) What was your entry like into business fields?
I got into the business world through DePaul University's business major, then a job fair, then my first job at Discover Card in a marketing program. Then advertising, startups, schools, and eventually starting my own business before going to grad school to become a therapist. it has been a wild ride and rollercoaster with lots of ups and downs, but fun the whole way.
2) And do you have anything you would have told your younger self or things you wish you knew sooner?
I'm glad my younger self took risks, pushed through discomfort and learned to manage anxiety (little by little over time and still working on it). I wouldn't necessarily change anything, but I would have tried to stick things out longer than I did, and learn to detach from my emotional overwhelm in certain roles earlier. Not putting so much pressure on myself at times. But, overall just have encouraged myself to keep moving forward no matter what happens. Just don't stop.
3) What were some moments where you felt not educated enough?
I'm currently going back to school to be educated as a therapist because I was being presented with situations that were outside my expertise. So yes, often and always. There will never be a time where I will be fully knowledgable, educated, or ready. I still have to find a way forward regardless.
4) Like Impostor Syndrome moments. Is there anything you would have changed about your employment path?
Hard to say because I don't know what a different series of decisions would have done for my current outcomes and I am happy with where I am at. But, if I would have changed anything it would have just to have tried to be more self aware, emotionally resilient, and practiced more delayed gratification throughout my career.
I hope these answers help in some small way with what you're going through in your career. Let me know if I can ever be of help in the future. Wishing you all the best. At the end of the day, I'd say that early on we should take advantage of every opportunity that presents itself to us, try to do our best, and allow ourselves the flexibility to change and grow as we go.
At the end of the day, I'd say that early on we should take advantage of every opportunity that presents itself to us, try to do our best, and allow ourselves the flexibility to change and grow as we go.
Best,
-Martin
Work vs. Home Identity
Our work identity and our personal identity are two distinct entities that coexist within us. Our work identity is the persona we present to our colleagues and superiors, while our personal identity is the person we truly are outside of the office. It is important to understand that these identities can be different, and that authenticity can look different in each context.
At work, we are often expected to conform to certain norms and expectations, and to present ourselves in a certain way. We may have to suppress certain aspects of our personal identity in order to be successful in our careers. For example, we may have to adopt a more formal communication style at work, even if we are more comfortable using colloquial language at home.
However, it is important to remember that authenticity is not about conforming to societal norms or expectations. Rather, it is about being true to ourselves and being honest about who we are. This means that we can be authentic at work, even if we are not able to fully express our personal identity.
Being authentic at work can involve finding ways to express our unique strengths and talents, while still adhering to the expectations of our workplace. This might involve finding a mentor or role model who can help us navigate the corporate culture, or seeking out opportunities to showcase our skills and talents.
On the other hand, being authentic at home means allowing ourselves to fully express our personal identity, without the constraints of work expectations. This may involve spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies and interests, and engaging in self-care practices that allow us to recharge and rejuvenate.
Understanding the difference between our work identity and personal identity is crucial for achieving authenticity in both contexts. Authenticity at work may involve finding ways to express ourselves within the constraints of our workplace, while authenticity at home means allowing ourselves to fully express who we are without any constraints. It's essential to find the balance between both the work and personal identity to live a fulfilling life.
Prepare for the Career Fair
A career fair can be a great opportunity to meet potential employers, learn about different industries, and potentially land a job. However, it can also be overwhelming and stressful. Here are some tips on how to prepare for a career fair to make the most of this opportunity:
Research the companies that will be at the fair: Before the fair, take some time to research the companies that will be in attendance. Look at their websites, social media accounts, and any press they've received. This will give you a better idea of what they do and what positions they may be looking to fill. It will also give you a chance to think of specific questions to ask when you meet with a representative from the company.
Tailor your resume and cover letter: Bring multiple copies of your resume and cover letter, and make sure they are tailored to the companies you are interested in. Highlight your relevant experience, skills, and education that align with the companies you plan to visit.
Dress professionally: You never get a second chance to make a first impression, so be sure to dress professionally for the fair. Business attire is the norm, so dress as if you were going for a job interview.
Have a plan of action: Before the fair, make a list of the companies you want to visit and what you hope to accomplish. This will help you stay focused and make the most of your time.
Practice your elevator pitch: An elevator pitch is a brief, persuasive speech that you can use to spark the interest of potential employers. Practice your pitch so that you can clearly and confidently convey your qualifications and what you can bring to the company.
Follow up: After the fair, be sure to follow up with the companies you talked to. Send a thank-you note or email, and let them know you're still interested in the opportunity.
By following these tips, you'll be well-prepared to make a great impression at the career fair. Remember to be confident, professional and personable, and you'll be on your way to a successful job search.
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The Authenticity Dilemma
The Authenticity Dilemma: How to Be Yourself at Work Without Burning Out
In today's fast-paced and competitive work environment, it can be tempting to put on a facade in order to fit in and succeed. However, constantly hiding your true self can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being, leading to burnout and dissatisfaction in your career.
On the other hand, always being fully authentic at work can also have its challenges. You may risk rejection or face pushback from colleagues or superiors who don't share your values or perspectives.
So, how can you navigate the authenticity dilemma and find a balance between being true to yourself and being successful in your career? Here are a few tips:
Understand your values and priorities. Take some time to reflect on what is important to you and what you stand for. This will help you make decisions that align with your beliefs and will make it easier for you to be authentic in the workplace.
Communicate your perspective clearly and assertively. Don't be afraid to express your thoughts and ideas, even if they differ from those of your colleagues or superiors. By communicating effectively, you can help others understand your perspective and build mutual respect.
Surround yourself with supportive individuals. Seek out colleagues, mentors, and friends who will support and encourage you to be your authentic self. Having a strong support system can help you feel more confident in expressing yourself at work.
Prioritize self-care. Being authentic at work can be emotionally and mentally taxing. It's important to take care of yourself by practicing self-care and making time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
Learn to let go. Not everyone will accept or understand your authenticity, and that's okay. Learn to let go of the need for others' validation and focus on being true to yourself.
Navigating the authenticity dilemma can be challenging, but by understanding your values, communicating effectively, surrounding yourself with supportive individuals, prioritizing self-care, and learning to let go, you can find a balance that allows you to be true to yourself while also being successful in your career.
Remember, being authentic is not only good for your mental and emotional well-being, but it can also lead to more positive and productive relationships in the workplace.
Need help navigating authenticity at work and finding a career that feels right for you? Schedule a free consultation with Coach Marty and learn how coaching can help you align your daily work with your personal values.
How AI Can Help You Find a Job
Artificial intelligence (AI) software like ChatGPT can be a valuable tool for job seekers looking to find their next opportunity. With the power of natural language processing and machine learning, AI-powered platforms can help job seekers navigate the job search process, from identifying the right job listings to tailoring their resumes and cover letters.
One of the main benefits of using AI-powered job search software is that it can help job seekers discover job opportunities that they may not have otherwise found. For example, ChatGPT can be used to scour job listings across multiple sites and platforms, including job boards, company websites, and social media. This means that job seekers can access a broader range of job listings and increase their chances of finding a job that is a good fit for them.
Another benefit of using AI-powered job search software is that it can help job seekers tailor their resumes and cover letters to the specific job they are applying for. For example, ChatGPT can use natural language processing to analyze job listings and identify the key skills and qualifications that are required for the role. This information can then be used to help job seekers optimize their resumes and cover letters to better match the requirements of the job.
Additionally, AI-powered job search software can help job seekers improve their interview skills. ChatGPT can be used to generate sample interview questions and answers, so job seekers can practice their responses and improve their chances of impressing potential employers.
Overall, AI-powered job search software like ChatGPT can be a powerful tool for job seekers looking to find their next opportunity. With the ability to discover new job listings, tailor resumes and cover letters, and improve interview skills, AI-powered platforms can help job seekers increase their chances of landing the job they want.
(ps. this post was written by ChatGPT …wild, right?!)