Reducing Rumination
Job searching can be a challenging and stressful process, and it's not uncommon for job seekers to ruminate on their experiences and decisions.
Rumination is the act of repeatedly thinking about the same negative thoughts or feelings without finding a solution. It can lead to feelings of hopelessness and depression, which can make it even harder to find a job. Here are some tips to help you stop ruminating during your job search:
Identify the triggers:
The first step in stopping rumination is to identify what triggers your negative thoughts. Are you feeling anxious about not finding a job? Are you worried about being rejected by potential employers? Once you know what triggers your rumination, you can take steps to address them.
Set realistic goals:
It's important to set realistic goals for your job search. If you set goals that are too high, you may become disappointed and discourage when you don't meet them. Instead, set small and achievable goals that will help you feel a sense of accomplishment as you move forward.
Practice mindfulness:
Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment and focusing on your thoughts and feelings. It can help you to be more aware of your thoughts and to stop them from becoming overwhelming. Try to focus on your breath and notice your thoughts without judging them.
Take a break:
Taking a break from your job search can help you to clear your mind and refocus. Engage in activities that you enjoy, such as exercise, reading, or spending time with friends and family.
Seek support:
Talking to a friend, family member, or therapist can help you to process your thoughts and feelings. They can also provide you with a different perspective and offer support and encouragement.
Refocus on positive thoughts:
Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts, try to refocus on positive thoughts. Remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments, and think about the opportunities that are available to you.
Stay organized:
Keep track of your job search progress and make a schedule that is realistic and efficient. This way you can see the progress you made and will have a clear idea of what you need to do next.
Job searching can be a challenging and stressful process, but with these tips, you can reduce the amount of time you spend ruminating and increase the chances of finding your dream job.
Remember to be patient with yourself, stay organized and take time to take care of yourself.
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Pace Yourself While Networking
Networking is an important part of building a successful career, but it can also be overwhelming when you're first starting out. One of the biggest mistakes that people make when networking is trying to say everything in the first conversation. But in reality, there's no need to share everything about yourself or your business right off the bat.
The first networking conversation should be focused on building a connection and getting to know the other person. It's not about selling yourself or your business, it's about establishing a relationship. When you try to say everything in the first conversation, you risk overwhelming the other person and coming across as pushy or desperate.
Instead, take a more measured approach. Start by asking the other person about their background, their interests, and their business. Listen actively and engage in the conversation. Show that you're genuinely interested in getting to know them and that you're not just trying to pitch them something.
As the conversation progresses, you can share more about yourself and your business, but always keep in mind the other person's interests and needs. Don't try to force a sale or make a hard pitch. Instead, focus on building a relationship and finding ways to help the other person.
The first networking conversation should be about building a connection and getting to know the other person. Don't try to say everything in the first conversation, instead take a more measured approach and focus on building a relationship. Remember, networking is about building long-term connections, not making quick sales.
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#116 - MANAGING EMOTIONAL REACTIVITY: WHAT GETS IN THE WAY AND WHAT HELPS, with Dr. Sharon Lo Adusei
Career Therapy Podcast e.116 - MANAGING EMOTIONAL REACTIVITY: WHAT GETS IN THE WAY AND WHAT HELPS, with Dr. Sharon Lo Adusei
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On this week's Career Therapy Podcast (e.116), we welcome Dr. Sharon Lo Adusei to the conversation.
Dr. Sharon Lo Adusei is a licensed clinical psychologist with expertise in the developing brain, specifically focused on understanding the role that our context, culture and social environment has on how our attention and self-regulation skills form throughout life.
Over the last decade, she has worked to promote well-being and positive health outcomes in clinical, academic, and tech spaces, including the growing digital mental health industry.
In this episode we talk about childhood temperament and how it shows up in our work later in life, emotional reactivity and regulation and how to improve your sensitivity to negative stimuli, and what you can do to build a self-care plan for yourself when times get tough in your career.
If you like the Career Therapy Podcast, please leave us a review of Spotify and iTunes, share this episode with a friend, or leave a comment on YouTube so we can help more people navigate their way to a better career.
That’s all for the intro. Now let’s dive into this week’s conversation with Dr. Sharon Adusei…
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During this Episode, We Discuss:
0:00 introducing Sharon Lo Adusei
2:13 Sharon Lo Adusei’s background, and her journey to the digital mental health space
7:29 Emotional reactivity and regulation
12:58 Positive and negative environments and activities
17:13 What plant are you?
26:58 The balance between keeping busy vs. overworking yourself
32:27 How to adjust your reactions to stressful situations (what works for you?)
35:42 Externalizing anxiety (creating a “worry bully”)
40:39 Make good trauma responses
45:12 What’s the appropriate response to losing a job or being stressed by an interview?
51:19 Remote work vs. work in the office
55:08 Goals for “one-tooth goals”
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Benefits of Working Holistically
A holistic approach to your career means considering all aspects of your professional life, not just your job or industry. This includes your skills, values, and personal goals, as well as your physical and mental well-being. By taking a holistic approach, you can create a career that is not only successful, but also fulfilling and satisfying.
One of the key benefits of a holistic approach is that it allows you to align your career with your values and personal goals. This can lead to a greater sense of purpose and motivation, making it easier to stay engaged and motivated in your work. Additionally, a holistic approach can help you identify and develop new skills, which can lead to increased job satisfaction and opportunities for advancement.
Another important aspect of a holistic approach is considering your physical and mental well-being. A career can be demanding and stressful, and it's important to take care of yourself both physically and mentally to be able to handle that stress. This can include things like exercise, healthy eating, and regular breaks. Additionally, it's important to make sure that you're taking care of your mental health, which can include things like therapy or mindfulness practices.
Finally, a holistic approach can also help you better manage your work-life balance. By considering all aspects of your career and personal life, you can make sure that you're not sacrificing one for the other. This can lead to greater overall satisfaction and a more fulfilling life.
Taking a holistic approach to your career can help you create a career that is not only successful but also fulfilling and satisfying. It allows you to align your career with your values, personal goals and well-being. By considering all aspects of your professional life, you can make sure that you're not sacrificing one for the other, and make the most out of your career.
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The Beauty of a Mediocre Career
In a world that values high achievement, it can be easy to feel like anything less than exceptional is a failure. However, there are many reasons why a mediocre career can be a perfectly acceptable and even desirable outcome. Here are some of the reasons why a mediocre career can be good enough.
Happiness is more important than success
Success is often equated with money, power, and status, but these things do not necessarily lead to happiness. In fact, studies have shown that people who prioritize happiness over achievement tend to be more satisfied with their lives. If you are content with a mediocre career that allows you to pursue your passions, spend time with your family, and enjoy your hobbies, then that is a valid choice.
Not everyone is cut out for a high-pressure career
Some people thrive in high-pressure, high-stakes environments, but not everyone is suited to this kind of work. If you are someone who gets stressed out easily or who prefers a more relaxed pace, then a mediocre career may be a better fit for you. There is no shame in choosing a career that allows you to work at your own pace and manage your stress levels.
Life is about more than work
While work is an important part of our lives, it is not the only thing that matters. A mediocre career can give you more time and energy to devote to the other things that are important to you, such as your family, friends, hobbies, or travel. In the end, it is these experiences that will make your life meaningful and fulfilling, not your job title or salary.
Mediocre does not mean unfulfilling
Just because you have a mediocre career does not mean that you cannot find meaning and satisfaction in your work. There are many jobs that may not be prestigious or highly paid, but that provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment. For example, you may find that working in a non-profit organization, helping others, or pursuing a creative endeavor is more fulfilling than a high-powered corporate job.
Success is subjective
Finally, it is important to remember that success is subjective. What one person considers a mediocre career may be another person's dream job. The key is to define success on your own terms, based on what is important to you, rather than what society or others expect of you.
A mediocre career can be good enough if it allows you to be happy, manage your stress levels, have time for the things that matter to you, and find fulfillment in your work.
Don't let societal pressures or your own expectations hold you back from pursuing a career that is right for you.
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How to Feel Less Triggered at Work
Emotions can be a powerful force in the workplace, but they can also be a source of stress and conflict if not properly managed. Here are some tips for avoiding emotional triggers at work:
Identify your triggers:
Take some time to reflect on what situations or people tend to trigger strong emotions for you. This could be anything from a certain type of task or a particular colleague. Once you know what your triggers are, you can start to develop strategies for dealing with them.
Practice self-awareness:
Being aware of your own emotions and how they affect you is an important step in managing them. This means taking time to check in with yourself throughout the day and notice how you are feeling. It also means being honest with yourself about when you are feeling triggered and taking steps to manage that emotion.
Communicate effectively:
Good communication is key to avoiding emotional triggers at work. This means being clear and direct when communicating with colleagues, and being willing to listen to others' perspectives. It also means being assertive and standing up for yourself when necessary.
Take care of yourself:
Taking care of your physical and mental well-being is essential for avoiding emotional triggers at work. This means getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and making time for activities that you enjoy. It also means being mindful of your stress levels and taking steps to manage them.
Seek support:
If you are struggling with emotional triggers at work, it's important to seek out support. This could mean talking to a therapist or counselor, or reaching out to a trusted colleague or friend. It also means being open to feedback and constructive criticism from your manager or team.
By following these tips, you can learn to manage your emotions more effectively and avoid being emotionally triggered at work. Remember that it takes time and practice to develop these skills, so be patient with yourself and give yourself credit for progress.
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Acceptance & Commitment at Work
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a form of psychotherapy that combines traditional cognitive-behavioral techniques with mindfulness and acceptance strategies.
The goal of ACT is to help individuals develop psychological flexibility, which is the ability to engage in present-moment experiences with openness, curiosity, and flexibility, rather than avoidance, judgment, or suppression. ACT helps people to identify and clarify their values and to use mindfulness techniques to connect with these values in the present moment, and to use commitment and behavior-change strategies to take action in the service of these values.
Job searching can be a stressful and overwhelming process. The constant rejection and uncertainty can lead to feelings of anxiety and depression. However, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can be a powerful tool to help individuals navigate this process with more ease and effectiveness. Instead of trying to push away or eliminate negative feelings, ACT encourages individuals to acknowledge and accept them, while also staying focused on their values and goals.
By practicing acceptance, individuals can learn to let go of the need for immediate results and instead focus on the present moment. This can help to reduce feelings of anxiety and depression and increase motivation and energy.
Mindfulness is another key component of ACT that can be useful during a job search. By being present and aware of the current moment, individuals can gain a better understanding of their thoughts and emotions and make more informed decisions. This can be especially helpful when faced with rejection or uncertainty, as it allows individuals to remain grounded in their values and goals instead of getting caught up in negative thoughts and emotions.
ACT also encourages individuals to take action towards their values and goals. This means that rather than getting stuck in feelings of hopelessness, individuals can focus on taking small steps towards their desired outcome. This can include setting specific job-searching goals, networking, and continuously learning new skills and knowledge that are relevant to their desired job.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a powerful tool that can be used during a job search to help individuals deal with stress, uncertainty, and negative thoughts and emotions. By practicing acceptance, mindfulness, and action towards their values and goals, individuals can increase their chances of finding the right job.
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#115 - FACING YOUR CAREER FEARS HEAD-ON, with Dr. Benjamin Ritter
Career Therapy Podcast e.115 - FACING YOUR CAREER FEARS HEAD-ON, with Dr. Benjamin Ritter
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On this week's Career Therapy Podcast (e.115), we welcome Dr. Benjamin Ritter to the conversation.
Ben is the founder of Live for Yourself Consulting, a leadership and career coach, Talent Development Executive, values geek, international speaker, online course instructor, and podcast host of The Executive, and The Live for Yourself Revolution. From empowering professionals to get unstuck, to guiding senior leadership on how to stand out from the competition, develop executive presence, and feel confident in being a leader, Ben is an expert in his field and will guide you toward truly living for yourself at work and in life.
In this episode we talk about the culture of fear that is growing in the tech world due to mass layoffs and career uncertainty, how to reframe your personal and professional story, and why acceptance is necessary as we develop in our career year after year.
If you like the Career Therapy Podcast, please leave us a review of Spotify and iTunes, share this episode with a friend, or leave a comment on YouTube so we can help more people navigate their way to a better career.
Now let’s dive into this week’s conversation with Dr. Benjamin Ritter…
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During this Episode, We Discuss:
0:00 introducing Dr. Benjamin Ritter
2:16 Living in an environment of fear in the tech world
7:57 The negative effect of media / the LinkedIn news section
10:59 Get out of the headlines
12:30 Take back control of the personal and professional story
15:24 What do you WANT to be?
17:00 Juxtaposing polished exteriors to unfinished interiors
26:25 Applying to a job is NOT trying
34:13 Learning the rules of the game and playing it well
25:05 Multiple faucets of income
47:07 You WILL become dissatisfied
50:15 Practice acceptance
51:45 the story of how Martin and Benjamin were both zombies in movie promotions
55:15 Benjamin’s closing advice
Resources, links, and/or books mentioned in this episode:
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Embrace Your Anxiety
"The Power of Embracing Stress: Why Avoiding Stressful Situations is Bad for Anxiety"
Anxiety is a common mental health issue that affects millions of people. It can be triggered by many different things, including stress. Many people believe that avoiding stressful situations is the best way to reduce anxiety, but in reality, it can actually be harmful. In this blog post, we will explore why avoiding stress is not the solution for anxiety, and why it's important to embrace stress to build resilience.
Avoiding stress might seem like a good idea, but it can actually make anxiety worse in the long run. When you avoid stressful situations, you never get the chance to practice dealing with them, so you never build resilience. This means that the next time you are faced with stress, you are likely to feel even more anxious and overwhelmed. In essence, avoiding stress can create a vicious cycle, making you more vulnerable to anxiety and stress each time you face a new challenge.
On the other hand, embracing stress and facing challenging situations can help you build resilience and decrease anxiety. When you challenge yourself, you are teaching your brain that you can handle stressful situations, and that you have the tools to deal with them. This can help you feel more confident and in control when faced with stress in the future. Additionally, by taking on difficult tasks, you will build skills and gain experience, making it easier to cope with stress in the future.
Another way to build resilience is through mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of being present and focused in the moment, and it has been shown to reduce anxiety and stress. When you practice mindfulness, you can learn to focus on the present moment, instead of worrying about the future or dwelling on the past. This can help you develop a sense of calm and reduce anxiety, even in stressful situations.
Avoiding stress is not the solution for anxiety. Instead, you should embrace stress and take on hard things to build resilience. By facing challenges, practicing mindfulness, and building resilience, you can reduce anxiety and become more confident in your ability to handle stressful situations. So, instead of avoiding stress, take on a new challenge and watch your resilience grow!
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The Mental Health Benefits of Being Lazy
The Mental Health Benefits of Being Lazy
In today's fast-paced world, the idea of laziness is often associated with negativity. We are taught to push ourselves to be productive and accomplish as much as we can in a day. However, taking time to relax and be lazy can actually have positive effects on our mental health. Here are a few reasons why.
Reduced Stress
One of the primary benefits of being lazy is that it helps reduce stress. Stress can come from many sources, including work, relationships, and daily responsibilities. When we take a break and allow ourselves to be lazy, it gives our mind and body a chance to rest and recharge. This can help lower our stress levels, making it easier for us to handle life's challenges when they arise.
Improved Mood
Being lazy can also improve our mood. When we engage in leisure activities, such as watching a movie, reading a book, or listening to music, our brain releases endorphins, which are feel-good chemicals. These endorphins can help boost our mood, making us feel happier and more relaxed.
Increased Creativity
Taking time to be lazy can also increase our creativity. When we give our minds a break from our daily routines and responsibilities, it can help us think outside the box and come up with new and innovative ideas. This can be especially beneficial for people who are feeling stuck in a rut or who are looking for new inspiration.
Better Sleep
Lastly, being lazy can help improve our sleep. When we engage in leisure activities, such as taking a bath or meditating, it can help us wind down and prepare for a good night's sleep. Getting enough sleep is important for our overall health, as it can help improve our mood, increase our energy levels, and enhance our cognitive function.
Taking time to be lazy can have many benefits for our mental health. It can help reduce stress, improve our mood, increase our creativity, and improve our sleep. So, the next time you feel guilty for taking a break, remind yourself of the positive effects it can have on your mental well-being.
Incorporating a healthy balance of productivity and leisure time is key for overall well-being. So, don't be afraid to take a break and allow yourself to be lazy every once in a while. Your mind and body will thank you.
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Hope and Hopelessness
The Paradox of Hope and Hopelessness: Why Certainty is Sometimes Sought in the Absence of Hope
It is often said that hope is what keeps us going in life, providing us with the strength and resilience to face challenges and overcome obstacles. However, for some people, hope can also be a source of anxiety and uncertainty, leading them to seek solace in hopelessness. In this blog post, we will explore the reasons why being hopeless can be a type of coping mechanism that provides a sense of certainty in the face of an uncertain world.
Hope can be a double-edged sword, as it involves a level of uncertainty and unpredictability. When we hope for something, we are essentially placing our trust in the future and putting ourselves in a vulnerable position. This can be especially challenging in situations where the outcome is uncertain or beyond our control, such as in matters of health, relationships, or finances. The fear of disappointment or failure can lead to feelings of anxiety and hopelessness, causing us to withdraw our hope and focus on the present moment instead.
Hopelessness, on the other hand, provides a sense of certainty and finality. By accepting that things will not get better, we are no longer plagued by the fear of disappointment or failure. This can be a form of self-protection, as it allows us to avoid the emotional pain that comes with hope and disappointment. In this way, hopelessness can provide a sense of stability and security in the face of an uncertain world.
It is important to note that hopelessness should not be mistaken for cynicism or apathy. While these attitudes can also provide a sense of detachment and immunity from disappointment, they are not the same as hopelessness. Hopelessness is a type of coping mechanism that allows us to manage our emotions and find a sense of peace in the absence of hope.
Hope and hopelessness are two sides of the same coin, each offering its own unique benefits and drawbacks. While hope can provide us with the strength and resilience to face challenges, it can also lead to feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. Hopelessness, on the other hand, can provide a sense of certainty and stability, allowing us to find peace in the face of an uncertain world. Ultimately, the key to finding balance between these two opposing forces is to understand and accept our emotions, and to use hope and hopelessness as tools for coping and self-care.
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Did They Ghost Me?
"Were You Actually Ghosted During Your Interview or Are They Just Moving Slow?"
If you've gone through the interview process, you may have encountered the dreaded "ghosting" phenomenon. This is when a company seems to have lost all communication with you, leaving you feeling confused and frustrated. But how can you tell if you were actually ghosted, or if the hiring process is just moving slower than you anticipated? In this blog post, we'll explore the signs to look out for and what you can do to determine the answer.
Signs That You Were Ghosted
Lack of Communication: If you've sent follow-up emails or messages and haven't received a response, it's possible that you've been ghosted. A company that's genuinely interested in hiring you should make an effort to keep you in the loop, even if the process is taking longer than expected.
Radio Silence: If you haven't heard from the company in several weeks after your interview, it's a sign that they're not interested in pursuing the hiring process. In a competitive job market, companies usually move quickly to secure top talent.
No Explanation: If the company doesn't provide a reason for the lack of communication or an update on the hiring timeline, it's a red flag that you've been ghosted.
Signs That the Hiring Process is Moving Slow
Delays: Hiring processes can be slow and time-consuming, especially if the company is evaluating several candidates. If you've received a response to your follow-up emails but the hiring timeline has been pushed back, it's a sign that the process is just moving slow.
Other Hiring Activity: If you see that the company is actively posting job ads and conducting interviews, it's a sign that the hiring process is ongoing. In this case, it's likely that you're still under consideration and that the company is just moving slow.
What You Can Do
Follow-up: If you're unsure of where you stand in the hiring process, it's a good idea to send a follow-up email or message to the hiring manager. This can help to clear up any confusion and provide you with an update on the timeline.
Be Patient: Hiring processes can take time, and it's important to be patient and not jump to conclusions. Try to avoid assuming that you've been ghosted until you have concrete evidence.
It can be difficult to determine whether you've been ghosted or if the hiring process is just moving slow. By looking for the signs mentioned above and taking steps to follow-up, you can get a better understanding of your status in the hiring process. Whether you've been ghosted or not, remember to take care of yourself and stay positive. There are many opportunities out there, and the right one will come along at the right time.
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When Does It End?
Life is a journey, and work is a significant part of that journey for most of us. One of the most significant lessons we can learn is that in life and work, there is never an end goal. There is always uncertainty, and there is always a next step in the journey. It's essential to get comfortable with this fact.
At first, the idea of never being done can be overwhelming. We all have a desire to reach the finish line and to have a clear path ahead. But the reality is that there is no finish line, and the path is never clear. Life is a constantly evolving process, and work is no different.
One of the key benefits of embracing this uncertainty is that it frees us from the pressure of trying to achieve perfection. When we understand that there is always more to do, we can focus on doing the best we can in the moment and be content with that. This shift in perspective allows us to focus on the journey rather than the destination and to enjoy the process.
Another advantage of accepting the uncertainty of life and work is that it encourages personal growth and development. When we know that there is always more to learn and more to do, we are motivated to keep growing and improving. This mindset allows us to approach life and work with a sense of excitement and adventure, always looking for new opportunities to learn and grow.
So, how do we get comfortable with the fact that in life and work, there is never a finish line? The key is to cultivate a growth mindset. This means shifting our focus from the end goal to the journey and embracing the uncertainty that comes with it. It's about embracing the challenge and recognizing that each step is an opportunity to learn and grow.
Life and work are never done, and there is always uncertainty. But this should not be seen as a negative. Instead, it should be embraced as an opportunity to grow and learn. When we understand that there is always more to do and more to learn, we are motivated to keep moving forward and to make the most of the journey.
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What is Rage Applying?
Rage applying, a new job trend that has emerged in the current job market, refers to the act of applying to multiple job openings in a fit of frustration and anger, usually due to a lack of response from potential employers. Many job seekers have turned to this strategy as a way to cope with the stress and uncertainty of a prolonged job search.
The pros of rage applying are that it can help job seekers feel a sense of control and accomplishment in their job search. By applying to multiple job openings, they may feel like they are taking action and making progress towards finding a job. Additionally, applying to a large number of jobs increases the chances of getting a response, and ultimately landing a job.
However, there are also cons to rage applying. One of the biggest downsides is that it can be an ineffective job search strategy. Sending out mass applications without tailoring them to the specific job or company may lead to poor fit and a lower chance of getting hired.
Another important thing to consider, when applying to multiple jobs, it is important to make sure you are applying to the right job for you. Applying to jobs that are not in line with your career goals and qualifications can be time-consuming and frustrating.
Furthermore, it can also negatively impact a job seeker's reputation if they apply to many jobs that are not in line with their qualifications or experience. Potential employers may view them as desperate or unqualified.
It's important to remember that job search is a process and it can take time. Job seekers should approach their job search with a sense of patience and persistence. Instead of rage applying, they should focus on targeting their applications to the right jobs and companies, and spending time crafting tailored resumes and cover letters.
Rage applying may seem like a quick fix to a frustrating job search, but it can ultimately be more detrimental than beneficial. Job seekers should focus on targeting their applications and putting in the time and effort to make them stand out. With patience and persistence, they will increase their chances of finding the right job for them.
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Yin Yoga & Your Job Search
Yin yoga is a type of yoga that focuses on stretching and strengthening the connective tissues, such as the ligaments, tendons, and fascia, through long-held, passive poses. This type of yoga can be especially beneficial for those going through the job search process.
The job search process can be a stressful and demanding time for many people. It can take a toll on your mental and physical health, leading to feelings of anxiety and tension in the body. Yin yoga can help to alleviate these feelings by promoting relaxation and stress-relief.
One of the key benefits of yin yoga is its ability to increase flexibility. When we are feeling stressed, our muscles tend to tighten and become stiff. This can lead to physical discomfort and tension headaches. By practicing yin yoga, we can release this tension and increase our flexibility, which can help us to feel more relaxed and at ease.
In addition to increasing flexibility, yin yoga can also help to improve our focus and concentration. The long-held poses in yin yoga require us to be present in the moment and to let go of distractions. This can help to improve our ability to focus and concentrate on the task at hand, which can be especially beneficial during the job search when we need to be alert and present for interviews and networking events.
Another benefit of yin yoga is its ability to improve our overall sense of well-being. The deep stretching and relaxation that comes with yin yoga can help to reduce feelings of anxiety and depression and increase feelings of calm and contentment. This can help to boost our confidence and improve our overall outlook, which can be beneficial during the job search when we may be feeling down or discouraged.
Yin yoga is a great way to reduce stress and tension during the job search process. It can help to increase flexibility, improve focus and concentration, and improve our overall sense of well-being. Incorporating a yin yoga practice into your job search routine can help you to feel more relaxed, focused and confident, ultimately leading to a more successful job search.
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Top Two Reasons for Unhappiness at Work
The High Cost of Burnout and Low Pay in the Workplace
It's no secret that the workplace can be a source of stress and dissatisfaction for many individuals. However, recent studies have shown that two factors, in particular, are contributing to unhappiness at work: burnout and low pay.
Burnout is a condition characterized by physical and emotional exhaustion, cynicism, and a decreased sense of personal accomplishment. It's a result of chronic stress and is becoming increasingly prevalent in today's fast-paced and demanding work environment. Burnout can lead to decreased job satisfaction, increased absenteeism, and even health problems such as depression and anxiety.
Low pay, on the other hand, is a self-explanatory issue. When employees feel that they are not being fairly compensated for their work, it can lead to feelings of frustration and resentment. Low pay can also make it difficult for individuals to make ends meet, leading to financial stress and decreased job satisfaction.
Combined, these two factors can create a vicious cycle of unhappiness at work. Burnout can lead to decreased job performance, which can result in lower pay. At the same time, low pay can contribute to burnout by increasing stress and reducing job satisfaction.
It's clear that something needs to be done to address these issues. Employers must take steps to reduce workplace stress and promote work-life balance, while also ensuring that their employees are fairly compensated. This can include offering flexible work arrangements, providing access to mental health resources, and conducting regular evaluations of pay scales to ensure that they are in line with industry standards.
Burnout and low pay are two of the major reasons for unhappiness at work. Addressing these issues is crucial for the well-being of employees and the success of organizations. By taking a proactive approach to reducing stress and promoting fairness in the workplace, employers can create a more positive and productive work environment.
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Go On Every Interview
Going to every interview opportunity can feel like a daunting task, especially if you are not particularly interested in the job being offered. However, there are several reasons why it is important to attend every interview, regardless of your level of interest in the position.
Practice Makes Perfect
Going to interviews can be nerve-wracking and intimidating, but the more you practice, the better you will get. With each interview, you will become more comfortable with the process and improve your communication skills. You will learn how to articulate your thoughts and experiences more effectively, and gain confidence in your abilities.
Networking Opportunities
Even if you don't want the job, you never know who you might meet at the interview. Your interviewer or someone in the company might know someone who can help you with your job search in the future. Additionally, simply going to the interview can demonstrate your commitment and professionalism to others in your network, which can lead to new opportunities.
Gaining Insight into Different Companies and Industries
Attending interviews allows you to learn about different companies and industries, which can be valuable information for your future job search. You may find that you are more interested in a certain company or industry than you initially thought.
Improving Your Interview Skills
Each interview is an opportunity to receive feedback and improve your interview skills. Ask the interviewer for their thoughts on your performance and what you could do better next time. This feedback will be valuable in helping you improve your skills and increase your chances of landing your dream job.
Even if you are not interested in the job being offered, attending every interview opportunity is important for your personal and professional growth. It provides you with the opportunity to practice, network, gain insight, and improve your interview skills, all of which can help you in your future job search.
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#114 - THE AUTHENTICITY PARADOX: NAVIGATING IDENTITY AT WORK, with Dr. Jessica Jackson
Career Therapy Podcast e.114 - THE AUTHENTICITY PARADOX: NAVIGATING IDENTITY AT WORK, with Dr. Jessica Jackson
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On this week's Career Therapy Podcast (e.114), we welcome Dr. Jessica Jackson to the conversation.
Dr. Jackson is a passionate practitioner, scholar, and advocate in the field of counseling psychology. She divides her time between clinical practice, public speaking, advocacy, writing, and research to deliver culturally centered, evidence-based treatments to adult clients with a wide range of emotional, behavioral and adjustment problems — including anxiety, stress, depression, and relationship problems.
In a nutshell, she’s awesome.
In this episode, we discuss how to to manage our expectations and emotional reactions at work and in the job search, the importance of boundaries and how to implement them properly in the workplace, and how you can practice more self compassion in order to better handle the ambiguity of work, life, and identity in the workplace.
If you like the Career Therapy Podcast, please leave us a review of Spotify and iTunes, share this episode with a friend, or leave a comment on YouTube so we can help more people navigate their way to a better career.
Additionally, if you have any career, job search, or mental health questions you’d like us to answer in future episodes, click on the “sending a voice message” link in the description of this episode on Spotify, or iTunes, record your question, and tune into a future episode to hear our breakdown and response.
That’s all for the intro. Now let’s dive into this week’s conversation with Dr. Jessica Jackson…
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During this Episode, We Discuss:
0:00 introducing Dr. Jessica Jackson
5:45 Navigating vs. solving
7:33 Fixing things
11:25 Managing your JOB
15:14 Dealing with the REALITY of the workplace
18:40 Burnout and culture fit
25:55 Setting boundaries
29:01 Build the skills
33:52 CEO ghosting story (name the thing)
40:11 Psychological safety at work and real conversations
45:50 Mindsets that will help us with acceptance
50:29 Pressure from society and social media
52:31 Tips to calm reactivity in the workplace
Resources, links, and/or books mentioned in this episode:
As always, thanks for listening!
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The Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Response: How to Succeed in a Nervous Job Interview
The Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Response: How to Succeed in a Nervous Job Interview
Job interviews can be nerve-wracking for even the most confident individuals. When we are faced with a stressful situation, our body instinctively triggers a "fight or flight" response. This response, also known as the "freeze, flight, fight, and fawn" response, prepares us to deal with perceived danger by either fighting, running away, freezing, or adapting to our environment.
The freeze response occurs when we feel overwhelmed and unable to react. We may feel paralyzed, both physically and mentally, and unable to make decisions or respond to questions.
The flight response is when we try to escape the situation, either physically or mentally. We may feel the urge to leave the room, or we may find ourselves zoning out and losing focus.
The fight response is when we become confrontational or aggressive. We may become argumentative or defensive, which can harm our chances of landing the job.
Finally, the fawn response is when we try to appease and gain approval from the interviewer. We may suppress our own needs and opinions in order to fit in and please the interviewer.
To succeed in a nervous job interview, it's important to understand and manage our natural stress response.
Here are some tips to help you do just that:
Prepare: The more familiar you are with the job and the company, the more confident you will feel in the interview. Research the company and the job position, and be ready to talk about your relevant skills and experience.
Breathe: Take deep breaths and focus on your breathing. This will help you calm down and regulate your heart rate.
Body language: Stand up straight and make eye contact. Confidence starts from the inside out, and good posture and eye contact can help you feel more confident.
Speak positively: Focus on your strengths and accomplishments, and avoid negative self-talk. This will help you project a positive and confident image.
Ask questions: Show your interest in the job by asking questions about the company and the position. This will also give you a chance to learn more about the company and to impress the interviewer with your knowledge.
Follow up: After the interview, send a thank-you note to the interviewer. This shows that you are professional and that you appreciate their time.
It is natural to feel nervous during a job interview, but it's important to manage your stress response in order to succeed. By preparing, breathing, focusing on your body language, speaking positively, asking questions, and following up, you can impress the interviewer and increase your chances of landing the job.
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The Best Greatest Weakness
"Why Focusing on Skills, Not Personality Flaws, is the Key to Answering the "Weaknesses" Interview Question"
One of the most common interview questions is "What are your weaknesses?"
It's a tricky question, as many job seekers worry about revealing too much about themselves or sounding negative. However, it's important to understand that the interviewer is not looking for your actual weaknesses. Instead, they want to see how you handle this type of question and what you have learned from past experiences.
It's natural to think that the interviewer wants to know about your personality flaws, but that's not the case. What they're really interested in is your skills and how you handle challenges. They want to know what you would delegate to others, and what you would work on improving in order to be a better professional.
To answer this question effectively, focus on your skills and areas for improvement. Start by identifying your strengths and what you bring to the table. Then, think about areas where you could improve and what steps you are taking to do so.
For example, instead of saying "I'm bad at public speaking," say "I'm working on improving my public speaking skills by taking courses and practicing in front of a mirror." This answer shows that you are proactive and focused on personal growth, which is a positive trait in any professional.
Another approach is to talk about a skill that you don't have, but that you are willing to learn. For example, "I'm not very familiar with a particular software program, but I'm eager to learn and have been doing research to understand it better." This answer shows that you are open to new challenges and eager to expand your skillset.
At the end of the day, the "weaknesses" interview question is not about revealing your flaws, but rather about highlighting your skills and areas for growth. Emphasize your strengths, talk about areas for improvement, and show that you are proactive about personal growth. By focusing on skills and not personality flaws, you'll be able to answer this question with confidence and demonstrate your value to the company.
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