#58 | LONELINESS AT WORK & HOW TO RECONNECT
LONELINESS AT WORK & HOW TO RECONNECT | E.58 Career Therapy Podcast with Adam Smiley Poswolsky
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On this week's Career Therapy Podcast (e.58), we welcome Adam Smiley Poswolsky. Smiley is an author, speaker, millennial workplace expert, and author of ‘Friendship in the Age of Loneliness.’
Interestingly, Martin’s partner Liz was featured in his first book (“The Quarter Life Breakthrough”) years back before they started dating, and a past Career Therapy podcast guest Dev, the author of ‘50 Ways to Get a Job,’ is featured in Smiley’s new book, where they talk about building real life connections. So, definitely check out that episode when you get a chance, and pick up Smiley’s new book to hear Dev’s amazing story.
In our conversation today, we talk about loneliness at work, how to build meaningful connections, and what realistic expectations you should set for yourself in terms of bonding with others in your career and personal life.
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During this Episode, We Discuss:
0:00 introducing Adam Smiley Poswolsky
2:05 small worlds / the unrelenting coolness of Dev Aujla
4:20 a snapshot into the lives of a mural artist
5:24 identity in the workplace
11:30 going through difficult situations together
16:35 judging our own loneliness
19:48 what changes would Adam suggest?
22:40 social relationships and why they’re important (STAR)
23:50 how do relationships form in different generations?
26:24 friendship = “reciprocal intention” (STAR)
31:00 what college teaches you about networking.
33:10 the right way to network: “nerding out”
39:10 feeling “behind” in our networking abilities
40:19 how should we approach small-talk?
41:31 Bo Burnham’s ‘Inside’
42:50 how can we spark connection?
46:00 on friendships
51:20 the paralysis of social media
53:00 calling people on the phone
55:55 colleagues at work, pandemic time vs. normal times
57:30 expectations we have of friendships
59:35 the definition of loneliness
Resources, articles, and books mentioned in this episode:
The Previous Career Therapy Podcast with Dev Aujla (episode 27)
Adam Smiley’s New Book: Friendship in the Age of Loneliness: An Optimist's Guide to Connection
Hope in the Dark: Untold Histories, Wild Possibilities, by Rebecca Solnit
Now Over To You!
If you know anyone who has been hustling, or started a business, during the pandemic, and has an amazing story to share, let us know who they are! Alternately, if you, or someone you know has recently gone through a layoff, or has a layoff, or any other career transition-oriented story to share, reach out. Contact Martin through his personal LinkedIn page to get in touch. We're always on the lookout for amazing guests for the cast.
As always, thanks for listening!
